Fauxdom(me)

Fauxdom, fauxdomme, fauxdomination, fauxdommery are words best defined by the person using them at the time. Fauxdom(me) is mostly a verbal strategy.

Some people indulge in female domination as a very light form of sensual play. Domination per se is not part of the experience. Mostly it is a form of cheerful teasing. Others may engage in various levels of power exchange all the way up to what is often called lifestyle D/s. But many of even the latter group match what is traditionally thought of as Femdom.

Those who stress love, romance, tenderness, compassion, sometimes prefer mutual decision making often find themselves called “false” Dommes (Mistresses, Dominas) and submissive males, “submales” and the like. From whence these self-imagined arbiters of female domination derive their authority is hard to imagine. Mostly from their own fevered sex dreams I suspect.

Calling oneself a faux or “false” dominant reject the silly accusation and turns it into a positive description of a happy way of spending time with your lover. There are as many ways of enjoying fauxdomination as there are couple who don’t fall into some imaginary one true way of practicing “Femdom.”

The emergence of these neologisms in the blogosphere seems a sign of the spread of sexual sanity among people who no longer look to Elise Sutton or the Other World Kingdom as the basis for F/m fantasies and love affairs.