BDSM Reference Comments

Cheap Clamps

Tue, 30 May 2006 15:24:49 -0500

Author: Naomi
Date: Sep 2, 2011 6:52 PM

My favorite inexpensive nipple clamps are bodkins whose actual purpose is to pull elastic, ribbon, etc through a casing in a sewing project. They make a tweezers style one that looks eerily similar to commercial tweezers style nipple clamps. The bodkins have little “teeth” on them (for grippping) so you can get some bite out of them. There are also several solutions that I have tried if you don’t want the bite or want a set without bite: wrap teeth part in medical tape, use a dremmel or sandpaper to grind the teeth and rough edges down and dipping them in Plasti dip.

Ruined Male Orgasms

Wed, 20 Dec 2006 15:23:10 -0500

Author: holt
Date: Apr 3, 2011 8:23 AM

I was first conditioned to masterbate as quickly as possible until I was able to cum in less than 10 seconds. Once achieved I was moved to the second phase of conditioning. On approaching orgasm I had to relax all muscles to minimise orgasm. The third stage was to combine my two new skills and pefect them. Stage 4 was to masterbate to the edge and then have a “no hands” ejaculation, (now just a dribble), onto a rubber glove. After repeated conditioning I am now only able to ejaculate when I smell a rubber glove and then after 10…15 seconds I dribble my seed with an orgasm that lasts 1…2 seconds and feels like pissing.

Breath Play

Mon, 18 Feb 2008 16:07:11 -0500

Author: voron
Date: Mar 30, 2011 1:57 AM
URL: http://madtownbeatdown.com/

Over 8 million people [1] participate in judo, a martial art with a long history (over 100 years), and all of these people are choked and apply chokes on a regular basis with a near perfect safety record[2]. The average fitness level of judo players may be higher than the general population but people of all fitness levels participate in judo and other grappling arts (like Brazilian jiu-jitsu or BJJ, catch wrestling, submission wrestling and mixed martial arts). Many people begin classes as a way of getting in shape and losing weight after years of living a sedentary lifestyle, and yet there is not one recorded death directly linked to a single or repeated application of judo chokes. For a very conservative estimate we can say that only 1% of judo players are relatively �out of shape�, we can continue a conservative estimate of the number of times they are choked in a week, lets say 5 times. That makes 20,800,000 choking incidents in one year among an out of shape population with ZERO deaths and few if any injuries of any serious note. So obviously if you want to learn how to choke people effectively and safely judo, BJJ, catch wrestling, submission wrestling and MMA (mixed martial arts) classes can be highly valuable. The question often arises about potential long term negative effects; much of what is espoused at BDSM classes and in online essays is purely speculative. The fact is speculation is not necessary, there have been several clinical studies of brain function during the application of judo chokes [3] [4], and none have shown any indication of potential brain damage. In addition to that there has been a study entitled �Long-term effects of boxing and judo choking on brain function� published in the Italian Journal of Neurological Science where boxers and judo player were studied for any evidence of functional brain damage. The researchers concluded �…�while professional boxers may show brain functional impairment in comparison to normal subjects, judoka do not.�[4]. There is a known condition called dementia pugilistic, or boxers dementia. This diagnosis evolved because of the number of boxers who demonstrated neurological impairment during their career or in retirement. There is a massive population of people participating in martial arts who regularly apply chokes, and apply them full force in competition (to the point of unconsciousness). If repeated choking led to brain damage, the medical community would have noticed and created a diagnosis similar to dementia pugilistic, but they have not. Why? Because there simply are NOT hundreds or thousands of judo players who are showing any kind of neurological impairment. There are over 150 choking techniques in Brazilian jiu-jitsu alone. They do smothering style techniques, utilizing it as a method of reducing the cardiovascular endurance of those they are competing against. They utilize the martial arts uniform (gi) collar as a ligature to close the arteries or seal the windpipe of their opponents. They use their legs and arms to apply chokes. In short they apply a very wide variety of techniques, and yet maintain a level of safety that allows these styles to be some of the most popular forms of martial arts in the world. Just about any urban area has multiple judo and/or BJJ schools to choose from. For the breath play enthusiast this is wonderful situation. For the price of one or two kink events a person can pay for 3 months or more of high quality hands on training in the application of chokes. For a fetish oft maligned as incredibly dangerous and life threatening, why wouldn�t educators encourage those with a breath play fetish to avail themselves of such a resource? So with that in mind here are my two must do recommendations for ANYONE considering BDSM breath play and concerned with the potential safety issues. 1: Go to your physician and discuss your individual heath risks in regard to choking and being choked. It is always best to be honest and clear with your health care providers, but you can always take the communication step by step. You can tell your physician that you intend on taking Brazilian jiu-jitsu or judo classes where they apply chokes on a regular basis and ask if there is anything in your personal health history which would make that practice MORE dangerous than the average person. After discussing your personal risk factors you will be able to make a more informed choice about whether this activity is within your acceptable risk range. 2: Go take 3 months worth of Brazilian jiu-jitsu or judo classes from a local school which regularly engages in tournaments. I highly suggest a competitive school, (hopefully one whose students regularly win such tournaments), because it ensures a certain level of competence. Tell the instructor that you are very interested in chokes, how to apply them and how to defend against them. When in class always pair up with the highest belt/most experienced student when practicing chokes. 3: Play with a partner who has also taken classes in a grappling art such as judo, BJJ, submission wrestling etc, hopefully with you at the same school. [1] Goodman F, The ultimate book of martial arts, 2001 (pg 132) [2] Koiwai EK, Deaths allegedly caused by the use of “choke holds” (shime-waza) J Forensic Sci. 1987 Mar;32(2):419-32. [3] Rau R, Raschka C, Brunner K, Banzer W, Spectral analysis of electroencephalography changes after choking in judo (juji-jime) Med Sci Sports Exerc. 1998 Sep;30(9):1356-6 [4] Rodriguez G, Francione S, Gardella M, Marenco S, Nobili F, Novellone G, Reggiani E, Rosadini G., Judo and choking: EEG and regional cerebral blood flow findings. J Sports Med Phys Fitness. 1991 Dec;31(4):605-10. [5] Rodriguez G, Vitali P, Nobili F. Long-term effects of boxing and judo-choking techniques on brain function. Ital J Neurol Sci. 1998 Dec;19(6):367-72. Copyright madtown beatdown voron 2010

Bondage Mittens

Tue, 13 Feb 2007 16:37:09 -0500

Author: quick hands
Date: Nov 29, 2010 6:09 PM

Splendid blog there!

Breath Play

Mon, 18 Feb 2008 16:07:11 -0500

Author: Sinner
Date: Sep 14, 2010 7:22 PM

I can’t seem to find a “man” that can get the courage up to actually CHOKE me out!!!! Where cani find one of those?

Figging

Wed, 22 Nov 2006 12:25:35 -0500

Author: figger
Date: Aug 9, 2010 10:34 AM

thought i would share this, just recently learned of figging, but never got the chance to use an actual root. My dom and i use ginger root pills. You can buy them at any drug store in the supplement section. Break open and mix 2 pills per 1/2 oz of water, mix it up, apply however(we have a syringe, but also dab it on the clit/lips) this is VERY intense, burns like hell. Also works when the powder is mixed with basic KY lube. From what i have read about figging, this method might be a bit more powerful than a plain root, so use at your own risk, and have fun!

Duct Tape Hood

Tue, 13 Feb 2007 14:03:57 -0500

Author: gemini1766
Date: Mar 19, 2010 1:53 AM

It would also be possible to make a pull-zip to open it fast. But that might be getting a little too creative for something supposed to be fast and simple.

Asthenolagnia

Sun, 26 Mar 2006 15:00:25 -0500

Author: misstaylor
Date: Sep 24, 2009 5:03 PM

Looking for some scenarios to use on My boys.

Acousticophilia

Sun, 26 Mar 2006 14:56:37 -0500

Author: Hchan
Date: Jul 29, 2009 10:27 PM

First, I should point out that I’m an acousticophile. For those who think this is a fetish nearly everyone has, I can confidently say that that simply isn’t the case. Sure, a lot of women seem to prefer a deep voice, and a number of people find certain accents sexy, but the way I see it, little things like that are not synonymous with full-fledged acousticophilia. To me, acousticophilia means that certain sounds are necessary or almost necessary in order to “finish.” Seeing as this seems to be pretty rare and information seems to be pretty limited, I hope someone finds it helpful to read an explanation from an actual acousticophile.

Breath Play

Mon, 18 Feb 2008 16:07:11 -0500

Author: Yendorsgirl
Date: Dec 31, 2008 2:17 AM
URL: http://Yahoo

I love breath play, the risk is worth the high!

Resistance Play

Wed, 24 Jan 2007 12:27:15 -0500

Author: justine
Date: Jun 4, 2008 10:42 PM

i like resistance play too. i have been called a sam and this feeds those needs. i know there are those that disapprove of this behavior but i sometimes like to disobey on purpose or get a little mouthy and be punished for it. i also like to resist the punishment a little. For example, struggle with my Master as He is restraining me or tying me down. During the punishment i continue to be a little bratty, but with increased intensity eventually i am broken and it brings me an intense feeling of submissiveness that last for days. It really helps my slave heart. i was once wearing a T-shirt that read “I humbled the humbled one”. A female Domme replied to me, “that’s nothing, when you humble the proud one then you have something to brag about”. i think this is a good argument for an occasional resistance scene. It reinforces to the sub that your Dom does have power/control over you.

Figging

Wed, 22 Nov 2006 12:25:35 -0500

Author: Bobby
Date: Apr 7, 2008 6:19 PM

I have used figging for several years. One problem is finding long enough hands for a good carving. Most of the ginger in the stores year round is only about 2.5” long to a joint where it fractures. However I have discovered a solution. It makes for a great figging with any size ginger root. I use old vaginal medicine dispensers. Two of these are filled with graded ginger root. I use a fine grader and grade about 3 tablespoons full. The graded ginger is placed in two of the dispensers and once tied over the spanking horse inserted. It will not fall out and does a great job. The problem with this method is no turning back. The graded ginger root gives up its powerful juice faster and the temperature hits the ceiling in about � the time. It also last longer than a solid chunk. It is best to be tied and gagged, as it will set you on fire. Every swing of the paddle is even better as the shock wave increases the fire with each swing. After 45 minutes of spanking over the horse the love juice will be flowing so strong that a puddle will form.

Trample Fetish

Sat, 06 Jan 2007 16:32:40 -0500

Author: Richard
Date: May 20, 2007 10:33 AM

Thanks, your explanation is really appreciated.

Trample Fetish

Sat, 06 Jan 2007 16:32:40 -0500

Author: Tread
Date: May 19, 2007 9:49 PM

You have a pretty good grasp on the trample fetish. However you mention that “what viewers see may not be what is going on”. The taping of a one hour trample video actually takes many hours. Sometimes several days. It is, after all a video production, and there are many considerations to producing a video. The trample victim is getting a lot of what he likes, but in most cases will be getting more punishment than he can take. Here’s where the “safe word” comes in. The safe word is a word that when spoken during taping, everything comes to a halt. The models get off the victim and the cameras stop taping. The safe word might be “cut” or “mercy” etc. During the taping of a trample video, the safe word might be used many times. The producers are trying to provide a video that is a little more than just a girl carefully stepping on a guy. However, if you interview the male AND female models involved in trample videos you will find that everything is carefully controled. It is also full weight, full force, and what viewers see, is in fact, what is going on. The only portions edited out are the short breaks that the male victim needs. Thank you for covering this topic in a positive light. Trample fans are normal people who live normal lives. Tread.

BDSM

Thu, 07 Sep 2006 14:59:01 -0500

Author: roo-roo
Date: May 1, 2007 6:53 AM

BDSMLMNOP stands for “big-dicked salivating monkeys licking Mexicans’ nipples obscenely play”. It’s a really hot fetish.

BDSM

Thu, 07 Sep 2006 14:59:01 -0500

Author: Alexandra
Date: Apr 14, 2007 12:38 AM
URL: http://www.sensualsadist.com

BDSMLMNOP? What’s that all about then.

Fauxdom(me)

Tue, 27 Mar 2007 10:27:49 -0500

Author: tom allen
Date: Mar 30, 2007 11:04 PM
URL: http://vanillaedge.wordpress.com

The emergence of these neologisms in the blogosphere seems a sign of the spread of sexual sanity among people who no longer look to Elise Sutton or the Other World Kingdom as the basis for F/m fantasies and love affairs. Excellent insight, Richard. You might be onto something.

Masochismo

Sat, 03 Feb 2007 16:30:08 -0500

Author: roo-roo
Date: Feb 7, 2007 9:51 AM

Having your limits pushed can be an amazing experience. For me, it’s the opposite of rellor’s story though- I want her to stop, but she keeps going, pushing me harder and further than I thought I could go. My mind (and sometimes my lips) is saying “no, please, stop this!” but afterward, I sometimes get a great headspace. On top of that, I feel it brings us closer together when we share experiences like this. It seems to reinforce the power exchange and just makes me feel happy when sitting there in the afterglow.

Resistance Play

Wed, 24 Jan 2007 12:27:15 -0500

Author: Richard
Date: Feb 7, 2007 8:38 AM

You are talking about endurance. Resistance play involves “brattiness” or rebelliousness.

Resistance Play

Wed, 24 Jan 2007 12:27:15 -0500

Author: rellor
Date: Feb 7, 2007 6:54 AM

Some good thoughts but, when I’m tied up against the wall and my Mistress uses electric toys or canes/floggers to hurt me and I struggle to avoid the pain…am I not resisting? I’m certainly not just standing there and saying to myself ‘wow - that hurt!’ When she gets that cane or the electric flowing from her to me, it’s a struggle to see who will win - I resist the pain (although I crave it) and I resist giving up…the most important thing to me is not to give in - I’ve given my body to her and she can do what she likes with it and I shouldn’t stop any proceedings (within SSC of course).

Masochismo

Sat, 03 Feb 2007 16:30:08 -0500

Author: rellor
Date: Feb 7, 2007 6:13 AM

I am always seeking out real time scenes where I push to have my limits explored…I guess that’s a machismo thing. In my last session my Mistress was about to release me from the horse after caning my ass and I begged her to whip my back. I was certainly hurting from the caning (and the electroshock treatment before that) but I just felt I could take more and wanted her to carry on. She responded by suspending me ‘X’ style and flogging my back and front but stopped despite my begging her to go on..I wanted to prove I could take more. Perhaps she knew best?

Masochismo

Sat, 03 Feb 2007 16:30:08 -0500

Author: Alexandra
Date: Feb 4, 2007 7:06 PM
URL: http://www.sensualsadist.com

I like the sound of that :)

Resistance Play

Wed, 24 Jan 2007 12:27:15 -0500

Author: roo-roo
Date: Jan 28, 2007 11:08 AM

Like the writer of the first quote, the protocol side of bdsm doesn’t interest me. But when you’re genuinely struggling against someone and they still end up dominating you, that’s incredibly hot! On top of that, it’s just plain fun. Some see resistance play as less “pure” since the sub is struggling against the dom/me; but for those into resistance play, this is what the dom/me wants as well.

DIY Testicle Weights

Mon, 27 Nov 2006 13:59:21 -0500

Author: Lars Bech Nygaard
Date: Dec 9, 2006 8:59 AM
URL: http://www.sadomechanix.dk

Another option is to get (a few) bull-nose-rings, and replace the ‘break-off’ screw ( !!! ) with a nice little screw, i.e. a hex-nut-screw. The rings comes in steel, or even in brass (I’ve been told). I guess, that with some sorts of rings, you’d even be able to thread a tiny padlock through the holes intended for the break-off bolt ! Pic here: http://scansheep.dk/Graphics/Products/601_m.gif

DIY Chastity Belt

Wed, 08 Nov 2006 16:03:01 -0500

Author: Lars Bech Nygaard
Date: Dec 9, 2006 8:34 AM
URL: http://www.sadomechanix.dk

What an interesting suggestion ! I’ve got a few suggestions for male chastity, at my own homepage, but that’s more for play-situations.